To my friends going through a difficult time

 

No matter how many times you go back to the past, it will never change.

This difficult time is temporary. Nothing in this world is permanent. Whatever you’re going through right now won’t last. It may seem like you’re facing endless problems in your life, but trust me, it will never be for long. Take them as challenges, as motivations, to do better and to push yourself to overcome these difficult times.

You are not alone. I am here. I will always be here. If you ever need someone to vent out to or when you feel like nobody is willing to listen, I may be a hundred or thousand miles away, but you still got me. I will listen without judgment. I may not be able to take away your pain, but letting it all out may help you.

Stop blaming yourself or anyone else. We’re humans. We all make mistakes and we can always learn from them. No matter how many times you go back to the past, it will never change. Live in the present. Do whatever you can do today to improve your future. Change your mindset and focus more on solutions.

Don’t be too hard on yourself. Give yourself some credit. You’ve gone through hard times before and have always come out stronger and better. I’ve witnessed some of your losses and struggles. But I’ve also seen your victories. I will always be proud of you. Be proud of yourself, too.

But remember this…

No matter how many times you ask for my advice, it will not help you as much. You know what’s best for you. It’s always your decision to help yourself. And no matter what you decide, I’ll be there to support you.

So, my friend, cry when you must, but never forget to chin up, breathe and face each day as a new beginning.

Through thick and thin,
Shen

 

We’re all suffering our own battles.

As kids, we grew up believing in fairy tales. That we’re all secret princesses or princes waiting for our happily ever after. Well, that was how it was with me. I remember waiting for the moment my fairy godmother would pop out of nowhere, tell me I’m a princess of some far away kingdom and take me away, never to return.

But, of course, that moment never came. I’ve lived in this fantasy world for a while because society was plain cruel.

You know, I was born differently and so people around me made it their reason to point out that I was different. Making friends wasn’t easy. I grew insecure. I’ve always been insecure. I made bad decisions. I’ve always tried too hard to be friends with everyone because I wanted to fit in.

I know how it felt to be left out, so I promised myself I will never make anyone feel that way. But I guess, people will always interpret your actions in a different way. I was always the odd one out. It was too difficult to explain to anyone what I’m going through because it’s not something I have entirely accepted myself. My friends see me as a strong, optimistic individual. But what other choice do I have?

To live in a world where everyone tries to pull everybody down. Where the prettier ones laugh at their less good-looking counterparts. Where being fat is like a sin. Wherein there will always be something wrong with whatever you do or wear or say.

To live in a world like this, I’m sorry to say, I can’t blame those who took their own lives. It was easier to suffer a moment of physical pain and just end everything right there than to endure an emotional and mental one for a long time.

But if I didn’t remind myself every waking day that I am of value and worth, if I didn’t look forward to reaching all my dreams and ambitions, I would have been long gone by now.

I’m saying all of this because everyone’s going through something we know nothing about.

We’re all suffering our own battles. Battles we’ve fought since we were kids or as adults. Battles at home. Battles at school or in the workplace. Battles with our family and friends. Battles with our emotions. And the most difficult battle of all.. battles with our own damn selves.

We’re all victims in the same way that we’re also offenders. We’re humans. We’re not perfect and we’ll never be.

But if we have a chance to change the world, let’s start in our own little ways.

Reach out. Listen as much as you speak. Appreciate. Share your talents. Be kind. Apologize. Forgive. Move forward. Smile. Go after your dreams. Love and love and always share your sunshine!